Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Okay, I get it...

I get it I get it I get it. I am obviously not supposed to be around people that have a glimmer of hope of being healthy.
Nate was discharged and he is doing well. But I got Ty back this week and his freakin penis is infected. Yeah, infected. Imagine what THAT must look like., and it's about 5 times worse then that.

Excuse #1 "But I called the doctor", says Randy. Do you even know the doctors NAME?
Excuse #2 "But Myra, (the philippino, girlfriend/fiancee/mail order brind that's apparently a NURSE) said it looked fine," says Randy. Um, okay.
Excuse #3 "You just love drama in your life Stacey..." So the pediatrician is making up the infection and put Ty on an antibiotic because I asked her too, yyyeah.
Excuse#4, this is the excuse that Randy's BROTHER called me with and left a voicemail stating that they had taken care of Ty, so whatever happened since I got him back was unfortunate, and he hopes that Ty feel better, but it wasn't anything THEY did. So apparently a pussing, swollen penis manifests itself during a car ride on interstate 83 from MD to PA.

Whatever. Dammit.

Monday, April 28, 2008

still here

We are still here. Nate is feeling a bit better, but he had a colonoscopy this morning and we are waiting on the results on a small bowel study they did a bit ago in fluoroscopy. My husband: the over achiever. They told us after he swallowed the barium for the study it would take hours for the study to be completed. He drank the barium and then in 15 min they took an initial film to see how much it had progressed...they came back in after that film and said that the barium was already in his colon, so they did all the films right then and there. In and out in 20 min, it should have taken at least a few hours.

So here we are...waiting waiting waiting.

Sunday, April 27, 2008

Room 6037

Yep...room 6037. That's where I am sitting, eating an egg mcmuffin, sippin' on a coke at 9am on a rainy sunday morning. Are we celebrating our anniversary yet again? Nope. I was supposed to work today. I would love to say that I decided to call out and spend the day with my husband...oh wait, I did that. Except instead of enjoying the day in a jacuzzi tub and watching movies, I am sitting here watching my husband trying to rest with his pressure support bands on his ankles, and his i.v pumping him with antiemetic drugs. Yes folks, my husband is admitted to York Hospital.

Yesterday started like any other saturday. We were planning of driving to VA after we both got some rest when we got off at 7am. I slept until about 11am and Nate was already up. That was weird for him but I didn't think much of it. Then he began having extreme abdominal pain and vomiting. He spiked a fever and asked to go to the ER. Ne NEVER asks to go to the ER.

Off we go to York Hospital, they drew labs before he was even taken back to the treatment area. By the time he went back the results already came in. His white count was elevated, as well as his RBC's. Not good.

THe ER attending had surgery consult him who admitted him for his persistent nausea, pain, vomiting, and labs. Luckily at that point there was no reason to rush him into surgery...and there still hasn't been a need...yet.

The surgeon just made his rounds in here and is thinking Nate needs to be scoped. Colonoscopy. Man are we a healthy or what?

He looks horrible, all splotchy and pale. Luckily I don't get Ty until 11:30 tomorrow. I hope we know what's going on by then :(

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

All Done!

FInally, after a 3 months of anticipation...Ty's surgery is done.

Nate and I left with Ty to be at Hershey at 11:30. We get there a bit early, and the surgery center is ahead of schedule. We checked in, verified information, waited about 5 minutes and then Ty was taken back to the pre op area. Ty was GREAT. He got out of his clothes and into the gown, put their snazzy red surgical non slippy socks on. Nate and I met the surgeon and the anestesioligst... and off they wheeled him into the O.R. All of this happened about 15 minutes before his scheduled surgery time. The entire time Randy did not show his face. Nate and I were escorted back out of the pre op area into the waiting room. 10 minutes go by and Randy shows up. At first he was confused, when he asked where Ty was I answered that they already took him back. Randy thought that maybe he could still go back and see Ty, but I clarified for him that he was already in the O.R. He was ticked, but I didn't feel sorry for him. He KNEW what time Ty's surgery was. Then he blamed 83 for the delay (Man alive! Nothing is EVER his fault)

So we wait a bit over an hour and I guess Randy got too restless and got on his cell phone and walked out of the waiting room. As if the doctor knew, as soon and the door closed from Randy walking outside, the surgeon walked into the waiting room to talk to us. He answered all of our questions and let us know that everything went fairly well. The doctor walked out, in walked Randy.

So Randy managed to miss meeting Ty's surgeon from the VERY beginning of this process.

Okay, now I am mad...I just wrote out this HHHUUUGGGEEE post about the rest, but when I went to publish it...blogger was unavailable. I am NOT retyping it all again. So, bottom line is, Ty is okay.

Sunday, April 20, 2008

Pathetic

This is simply pathetic. I was just browsing through the help wanted section of our newspaper and I found this job posted...

Full Time EMT (That's what I do now...)
"XYZ" Fire and Ambulance Company is currently accepting applications for full time work in the field.

Applicants MUST have each of the following for consideration:
PA EMT Certification (I have that)
Valid Motor Vehicle License (I have that)
CPR/ADE (ARC/AHA) Certification (I have that)
Hazmat Operations (I Have that)
Emergency Vehicle Opperations Course Completed (Got it)
Annual Bloodborne Pathogen Certification (Got it)
HIPPA Compliance Training (Took it, Passed it)
NIMS 100/700 (I completed that too...)

The EMT will provide emergency medical support by responding to emergencies, stabilizing, and transporting patients, and maintaining equipment and supplies.


The successful applicant will earn $11.50 per hour and paid leave available after one year.


Okay, I'm sorry. But that's pathetic. Why in the hell did I ever decide to persue this as a career? $11.50 an hour for all those requirements. Pathetic.

Sunday Sunday

I have a love/hate relationship with sundays. It's the last day of the week I work. But it depends on the work load that I have that sets the stage for the rest of the week for me. If I am very busy and up all night I don't usually recover until tuesday or so because of having to be up with Ty from Monday on. But whatever.

It seems every shift I get increasingly more frustrated with a lot of different things. I can't really get into them, but I am getting pretty tired of all the crap.

I got an order from my last photo shoot....I will make a little over a hundred dollars, so that makes me happy!

Nate went out and purchased a speedlight for my camera for the wedding that I have coming up in May. That gives me time to actually learn how to use it. That thing is more complicated then my camera. It's a $600 light that attached to the shoe mount on the top of my camera. But Nate bought it because with his one credit card we got a big discount and 3 months no interest, so I will take some of the money I am making from the wedding to pay it off completely by the end of next month.

I figured with what I have booked now...I got the speedlight with some of the profit from the first one. The next one I will be able to get a new camera (Mine is getting up there in shutter releases and needs to be replaced very soon) and then the other 2 I have this year (so far) I will tuck the money away for vacations. I figured I will have enough to book Nate and I on a nice little scuba diving trip for a few days in the Bahamas or some place relatively "local." I would LOVE to go on the Honduras trip that we had planned before Nate had to have surgery, but there is only a one week window that he wants to go in, and I don't want to book that trip by myself. I would also love to go to Bonaire, but the flights right now out there are outrageous!

I get to meed Randy's girlfriend/fiance/whatever you want to call her tomorrow. I am SO excited (sarcasm noted, right?) I am meeting them at the inner harbor and I am taking Ty to the Aquarium for the day so he can at least do ONE fun thing during his spring break since his surgery is Tuesday. So, Randy suggested that we just meet down there since his GF hasn't seen the harbor yet.

I found out some very interesting things about this girl. My first fun fact is that she isn't even a citizen. (can I smell a work visa about to expire and that's why a wedding is being planned? Hmmmm?) Her entire family, including siblings are still in the Philippines. Apparently, now Randy wants to retire in "somewhere in the south pacific. It's good to know that he is broadening his white trash roots and has decided to dream of retiring somewhere other then Middle River in a shack on the murky Chesapeake. But still. I told him that would be great! Why doesn't he just leave now! Dare to dream, I suppose.

Anyway, I am regressing....tomorrow should be fun. Nate would come with us, but he has to work from 7p to 11p tomorrow night, after working from 7p to 7a tonight into tomorrow. He has to work that 4 hour shift tomorrow, it was the only way he could get off in time to go with me to Hershey Tuesday morning with Ty and then have Tuesday night off as well.

But first I have to make it through today. Hopefully it will be a better shift then friday. Ick.

Saturday, April 12, 2008

I don't like my job...

I am not stupid. I know that people talk about me when I am not working because somehow every time we coworkers gather in the ambulance bay we somehow migrate to a conversation about someone that we work with that isn't present during the conversation. But boy were my feelings hurt last night.

I worked with a guy that I love to work with last night. Clinically he brings out the best in me. I feel very confident around him because I know he isn't judging my techniques and what not. And I trust him. We talk on a personal level and I don't do that with a whole lot of people. And he has told me in the past that he has confided in me like no one else. Writing this makes it kind of sound like I might have something for this guy...but trust me when I say, even if I wasn't married to Nate I couldn't date him. He is a good friend and that's it.

Anyway, so we were sitting in the lounge last night and he says to me "You know Stacey, I have got to congratulate you on making it to your one year anniversary." And I just looked at him with this confused look on my face and I was like " what do you mean "making it?" to my first year. Were there doubts?" And he hesitated and started the next part of our conversation with "I swear you can't tell anybody I said this...but, there was a bet going on." My eyebrows raise..."Oh really?" I say. Then I continue, "I don't recall it being any one's business how long my relationships last?" Then he insists that it was no big deal. No big deal? So I ask, since this isn't a big deal, how many of my coworkers were involved in this little bet. "everyone." I was told. And not everyone as in, everyone from my station...it was EVERYONE as in everyone from BOTH stations. Okay, now my feelings are hurt. But whatever. Then I made the mistake of asking what the guesses were. I think he thought he was making me feel better when he explained that it ended a while ago because the longest guess was 3 months. But apparently I threw them through a loop when I got engaged. They were initially guessing how long we would be dating. I suppose they had to restructure their ways when I was getting married.

I don't know why this bothers me so much...but it does. Whatever.

In other news... our anniversary night was a lot of fun. We ordered in...and my eyes were WAY bigger then my stomach because I had enough food to eat dinner, have a bit of a snack later and then I didn't need to buy any food while I was working yesterday..so I had enough for lunch AND dinner too! Yeah, it was that bad!

Nate and I keep talking a lot about moving again. We seem to go in spurts. It looks like maybe we will be moving in about a year...and then it will be to like Florida or some place close to the water. That way we can get the custody schedule figured out before we move internationally and it won't be such a big deal. I can't wait to get out of here. I swear if Nate didn't like his job so much we would be packing right now. He got his schedule for May and he works almost every day. They are already asking him to pick up the 2 last days he has off in April...but it's the night before and the night of Ty's surgery. He was initially scheduled for those days, but then switched them (THANK GOD!) so he could be with us. I really didn't want to do that alone for that.

I am curious if Randy comes. He said he would come to the pre op appointment, but he didn't bother to do that. He and I had a bad week. It's been pretty bad with him since he has been served. I kind of expected that though. This woman he is supposed to be marrying seems weird. He told me that she is 32 and she really wants kids. I asked him when he told me that if they were going to have any and he said "yes." But he had recently told me that he wasn't having any more children. SO when I questioned him on that he just replied that she wants them, so whatever. Oh that's a great basis for having a child with someone. Does she completely disregard what he wants? Is she really that selfish? Can't she SEE the outcome of the last one he didn't want? Hello?

So I figure one of two things will happen. One...hey have a baby and he reverts back his old habits and she gets fed up with it (like I did) and she is educated and self sufficient, so I don't see her feeling trapped like she can't leave if she was that unhappy. Or two...Randy gets flooded with guilt that he wasn't there for his first sons first years so he tries to make up for it with this one and then Ty gets hurt since Daddy isn't paying much attention to him. I figure either outcome is good for me and Ty. He has a solid base here and we aren't going anywhere (emotionally) Plus my atty said that 9 times out of 10...no matter how involved a man is with his kids before he gets remarries...once he gets remarried and starts his own family with his new wife, the children of his first relationship are forgotten about. I can only hope.

Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Registration

After today it's official...Ty is registered for Kindergarten! Where did the time go?

He did really well on their readiness test...apparently he knew things that I didn't even know he knew! They sent everyone home with a book bag with reading assignments and skills practice to work through during the summer and it even had a book included...it's called Chicka Chicka Boom Boom. It's kind of cool!

When we were pulling in to the parking lot of the school I was kind of sad and nervous...so I asked Ty..."are you ready? are you nervous? With a huff he sighs and says "gimme a break Mom." Okey Dokey. That gave me an ounce of perspective.

In other news I applied for a job last night. It's working for Penn State (York) as the staff assistant to the professors in the Astronomy and Astrophysics Department. I don't know if I'll even get considered. According to their requirements for the job I meet them...so we'll see. If I do then I will start taking classes (Mucho discount on the tuition)


Tomorrow is my anniversary. My first anniversary and I will actually BE with my husband. ( For those of you that know me...my first anniversary I was home alone while my husband drove 4 hours away to spend the night with his father to fight a DUI his father had gotten several weeks earlier )

We are just having a low key night. But I rented a local hotel room with a jacuzzi tub. I am very excited about that! But I am back to work at 7am on Friday morning. (bummer)

Monday, April 7, 2008

Weekend in Review...Happy Monday

We had a pretty good weekend. It was really nice to have some time with Nate when he's awake during the day. I feel like we reconnected a lot.

The day at the harbor was nice. My only peeve is that Nate paid for everything. His sister paid for nothing...which also means that he paid for her. We even went to dinner where she wanted to go. Hard Rock Cafe. It was for his Mother's birthday and we went where she wanted to go.

I don't know if it was the way I was raised or what. Spending money while we are trying so hard to pay off debt is hard for me. The dinner was $150. I would spend that in a heart beat for his mom..so I don't know why that bothers me that it included his sister. Something about the $12 alcoholic drink bothered me too. I don't know...I need to get over it. Okay, I'm over it.

The Body Worlds 2 exhibit was very interesting. Some of the bodies were slightly disturbing. I just can't believe what they did to some of them. There was one guy who was cut sagitally (Like sliced from head to toe in 2 inch segments. The skin was still on his face and all.

I would have to say that I was getting really ticked at the high school students from the locally underprivileged areas visiting the exhibit. They were so disrespectful. Example...there was a man posed hanging from gymnast rings. His body was displayed to show all the major muscle groups. He, as everyone else on display...was naked and these kids were gawking and literally hollering "oh shit, is that his thing!" (pointing to his penis) Mmmmkay. Show some respect.

Fast forward to saturday, we went up to Hershey to Chocolate World and the Zoo up there. There was a reason that I never went to the Zoo America up there, but I didn't know it until we went here. It was awful. But it was a nice day.

Picking Ty up yesterday was a fiasco for a while. I am so sick and tired of Randy thinking he is doing me all sorts of favors. You see, his parents are REFUSING to meet me since he was served. I guess they hate me now. Anyway, I was to meet him sunday at 5pm since he would be unable to take Ty to school on monday and his parents won't meet me monday morning. Well, Randy had Ty so excited ALL week last week for an Oriole game sunday and we were meet after that. But excuse after excuse he didn't take Ty, then he felt bad about it and demanded that I meet him later then 5pm and I refused. No, sorry. I planned my day around picking him up at 5pm...not later. ( I really didn't have anything planned, but he didn't need to know that...I am sick of bending over backwards for him. ) So we ended up meeting at 5pm anyway but not after arguing about it for several hours. Hmmm couldn't that have been time well spent with Ty?

Today was busy...I took Ty to preschool...had a fantastic morning with my husband, picked Ty up and then we went out t Rad Lobster (Ty and I can eat at Red Lobster for $3 more then McD's, I can't help it and Ty LOVES it.) Then we ran a ton or errands. He actually asked to get a haircut. Coming from a child that screams like he is being stabbed repeatedly when he is having it cut I took the opportunity and ran with it. He told the lady he wanted it spiked. He was so cute. She didn't cut it short enough to spike it exactly like he wanted, but I didn't want it totally short either. So we are both happy. Then we came home and watched 101 Dalmations and made a great dinner then Nate went to work and Ty and I snuggled in bed and watched part of National Treasures and then he went to bed. Great Day.

Okay, that's enough for now. I am actually quite tired. Good night.

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

Fun weekend ahead!

If it isn't just good enough this is my long week with Ty (I have him into fridays every 3 weeks) I am also getting him on Sunday since I don't work! Yeah!

Also, tonight is Nate's last night in after his long stretch of working 6 nights in a row. I am so looking forward to having him home. We had a long discussion and everything is great between us again. I guess I was overly grumpy and he was overly tired and that = fussiness.

Tomorrow my MIL and Sister in Law are coming up to spend a night or two with us. The 5th is my MIL's 50th birthday and initially we were planning a big trip but between Nate's surgery and mine that all kind of fell thru. Friday we are going to the science center and harbor to see the Body World 2 exhibit. I am very excited to see that.

I haven't taken a prescription pain pill in 2 days. But I totally over did it today. I took out the trash and did 5 loads of laundry and vacumed and tidied the house. So I am paying for that now.

Also tomorrow is my parent teacher conference with Ty's teachers. I couldn't do it on the actual day set aside for the conferences because it was the day after my surgery.

That's it...nothing too exciting eh?

Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Rent

oh, and the rent is going up effective May1.